Why intimacy belongs in our businesses

Wtf brand intimacy means and looks like, why it belongs in our businesses and how to cultivate it in yours.
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If you’re new to me and my content, you’re going to hear me say intimacy or see it peppered throughout my website a fair deal. And if you’ve been around for a while but still have no idea wtf I’m talking about when I refer to intimacy, I wanted to take a sec to help you understand why I’m so passionate about building up intimacy in our businesses.

But, before we get there, I’ll give you a spoonful of context.

When I started my business 6 years ago, I was frantically trying to learn all the things. I realised quickly that running my own show was really different to working in the design studios I had before. I wasn’t just doing my work anymore. I also had to market myself and connect with leads and convert them into clients. I had to design a website and pinterest graphics and on-boarding documents.

I was hungry to figure it out. I hoarded free PDFs that promised growth or clarity, I signed up for endless webinars, and I did what anyone else (I think - hahah) would have done. I looked to my peers: the other young women just starting design businesses around the time I was.

Well, I didn’t just look. I peered and snooped and … became. I lost myself in the sea of sameness because I was just looking out, the whole time. I was listening to them (along with all the so-called experts), without taking a second to really listen to myself, what I wanted, who I wanted to work with and what I wanted the future of my business to look like.

So I modeled my offerings, my opt-ins, my website, my voice, my values (I’ll talk about this soon because 🔥 I have some hot opinions) on what they were doing, because it appeared to be working. And I wanted mine - my whole business and dream - to work too.

A personal turning point in this story aligns with a personal time of change as I became a mother. As a result of many things that relate to business, life and society, I was angry and anxious and fucking tired.

I knew I couldn’t foster any sustainability with what I had at the time. So much inside of me had shifted with my new season, and so much of how I viewed the world and moved myself through it had, too. The postpartum fog (along with a sprinkling of necessity) made me a much more critical thinker and allowed me to take a second, step back and really evaluate.

I saw that I had spent over a year looking out, trying to find value and superimpose it on what I was creating, writing, doing. When all I really wanted and everything I should have been doing was looking in to create value.

So that’s what I did.

I started cultivating intimacy, first with myself and personally what I value, believe in and want. Then I moved focus to my business and got intimate with what I really wanted to do, what I really brought to the table in such a noisy industry, who I wanted to work with and how I wanted to make them feel. And relished in the realisation that who I am and what my purpose is  is so intertwined, one constantly informing the other.

Which allowed me to stop chasing the highly sought after but never achieved work-life balance and opt for finding harmony. Honouring an ebb and flow between my roles and responsibilities, while liberated me from the frustrating push-pull of over compartmentalising my life, parenting, relationships, marriage, work.

While I am oversimplifying it fiercely, what happened in my life and business and self, personally, can only be described as finding and nurturing intimacy.

So I took the same values and beliefs into my work and use intimacy as a means to build up a deep understanding of your business and your people so that you have a plan, all the confidence and the right words to grow your business into what you dream to be.

Okay, but what does intimacy have to do with business?

As humans, we value connection. And whether we realise it or not, intimacy is probably quite important in our lives too. With family, a partner or partners, our children, and hopefully ourselves. I’m talking about small intimate moments that encourage acceptance, understanding and vulnerability, with others and ourselves.

And when our businesses are us, as individuals, and when the people we work with or create for in our business are the reason our businesses grow or thrive, it makes sense that we would value intimacy within that space too.

Because our businesses are, in essence, a vulnerable extension of ourselves. That we publish and share with the world again and again.

Intimacy in business could look like:

  • Understanding how what you do is connected to your vision for your life
  • Knowing what part of your personal story your purpose and passions are born out of
  • Holding to what you value and believe in, so that you don’t feel you have to sacrifice it just to be ‘successful’
  • Defining for yourself what growth and success in your business and life look and feel like
  • Looking inward to create value for yourself instead of looking outward to find value in others
  • Determining what rules and norms in the business space actually serve you and which you can rewrite for yourself
  • Deeply understanding your goals (even as they evolve) and aligning your actions to meet them
  • Being grounded and connected to yourself so you’re less likely to be swept up by all the things you “should be doing/feeling/wanting”

All of which support you to grow your business into what you dreamt for it to be.

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Why intimacy belongs in our businesses
Why intimacy belongs in our businesses
Why intimacy belongs in our businesses
Why intimacy belongs in our businesses

Hi, I’m the author, Lorin

I love supporting you bring confidence, clarity and growth to a business already filled with so much meaning and love.

If you’re filled with ambition and purpose and looking for branding and business support that helps you achieve your vision, you’re in the right place.

I’m a brand and website designer with an approach centred on intimacy, so you’ll see that word a lot here.

I’m also a red wine enthusiast, amateur vegetable gardener, mom to an adventurous 5 year old, whippet lover with a thing for ginger cats and Cape Town local who loves the ocean.

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